For a change, Shaista discusses divorced women in her morning show

Shaista Lodhi, morning show host
Channel: Geo

Name of the show: Utho Jago Pakistan

Date of broadcast: October 10, 2013

I was totally caught off guard on Thursday night by the theme of Shaista Lodhi’s (formerly known as Shaista Wahidi) show in which she discussed the trauma a woman undergoes during a divorce. She invited Farah Hussain, a morning show host on ATV who had recently been through a divorce and together the women discussed the issue at length while shedding buckets of tears.

Shaista has been notorious for centering her shows on the elaborate rituals of marriage and setting the trend albeit in an unhealthy manner. Following the herd mentality other morning shows, Nida Pasha on ARY Digital comes to mind, too started to copy the format all hoping to raise their TRPs.

Beginning her career as an announcer for PTV, Farah Hussain’s claim to fame was a drama serial Bandhan and her role as Dil Aapi. In the show she discussed her background, her career paths, challenges of working on a state controlled TV channel, why she quit acting to become homemaker and finally how she ended up as a host for a morning show on ATV.

The subject of divorce came into discussion when Farah Hussain told her about a cybercrime in which a young boy had somehow managed to get her cell number and imitating her voice would call up celebs, politicians, and other high-profile people and started online affairs and procuring expensive gifts using her identity. Farah complained to the FIA, and she said through the efforts of former IG Afzal Ali Shigri, the boy was caught red-handed. She does not say whether she filed a case against him.

Shaista then narrated that she too was maligned on the social media and at a time when she was going through one of the most painful time of her life, her divorce. “We were being legally separated even though we were living apart for quite sometime.” Not taking names, she said that her name was linked to someone and based on those false allegations there were things written on the social media. She said she was grateful that her organization (meaning Geo) took a firm stand and took action (meaning legal notices) against the offenders. As a result the false news on social media were taken off.

But she pointed out a pertinent matter: that of the damage it wreaks on one’s family. Shaista who has three children said that one day she was questioned by her son about these alleged rumors. Another societal flaw she pointed out was just because she and other women appear on TV they are easy targets since some people wrongly believe that they have no family and hence no izzat.

Farah Hussain, now Farah Sadia, spoke about her former husband’s relentless pursuit of her and how she fell for his charms and relented and married him. When amid tears Shaista asked her why she thought her marriage fell apart, Farah blamed it on bad luck.

However later as the show progressed, Farah gave lot more details about the end of her 14-year marriage. It seemed her husband and her in-laws were unhappy with her showbiz career. However her husband did not perhaps have a proper job and they went through tough times and she had no choice but to go back to work to support herself and her two sons. When Farah told her that things were so bad that sometimes she didn’t have money to buy pampers for her babies or even food, Shaista broke down and at this point the show became a tear-fest and felt as if one had intruded into someone’s privacy.

After a while Shaista spoke to her other issues such as the challenges one faces as a divorced woman raising two sons, the stigma of being divorced and the assumption that hosting morning shows means an end to one’s marriage.

Other than her breakdown, which is understandable since she recently was divorced, Shaista was pretty much in control, spoke less and let her guest do the talking. Farah was quite frank but her curious mix of English with smattering of Urdu was most annoying and she would not finish narrating one anecdote when she would jump to another one was surprising considering that as a morning show host she would be aware of such pitfalls.

Links to the show:

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http://videosignals.us/vedio.php?i=652911&s=t&x=19&y=20

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Getting married, SECOND time lucky?

“Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. 2nd marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.” – Samuel Johnson (English essayist and philosopher)

The surfacing of wedding pictures of TV director and actor Azfar Ali’s second conjugal relationship with VJ and TV actress Naveen Waqar (Humsafar, Annie Ki Aayegi Baraat) has created a furor of sorts on social media. Azfar (Sub Set Hai, Light On Hai) was previously married to fellow actress Salma Hasan, daughter of renowned architect Arif Hasan, with whom he has two kids.

Second time marriages are however not alien to T-town, here TVnama takes a look at other telly celebs who got lucky twice or maybe not so lucky even the second time round.

  1. Jamal Shah

The low-key actor and artist is happily settled second time round with Amna Shah, reportedly a former student at his HunerKada College of Visual and Performing Arts in Islamabad with whom he also has two children.

He was earlier married to actor, director, writer Feryal Gauhar, for quite a while and with whom he shared common interests. They had met each other when they were both studying at National College of Arts in Lahore. The demise of the relationship of this gorgeous and multi-faceted couple saddened their fans.

2.  Abid Ali

Abid Ali

The veteran TV actor and director Abid Ali got hitched to colleague Rabia Naureen in 2006. Earlier Abid Ali was married to actress and singer Humera Ali with whom he has three daughters. One of them is the well-known model, TV and film actress Iman Ali. It may of interest to avid drama watchers that Abid Ali’s ex wife sang several songs in the hit serial Dasht, that was produced and directed Abid Ali.

3.  Ayesha Sana

Wooden but pretty TV actress and former PTV morning show host Ayesha Sana was/is infamously married to PTV MD Yousuf Baig Mirza. Apparently Mirza was refusing to acknowledge his marital relationship with his wife, that drove Ayesha Sana up the wall and she held a press conference in which she spilled the beans. The relationship even produced a son to whom her second hubby refuses to give his appellation.

Ayesha Sana was earlier married when she was barely 15 years old. She has a son from this marriage.

4. Nadia Khan

Actress and former morning show host was hitched briefly but then found marital bliss second time around with a gentleman by the name of Khawar Iqbal with whom she has two children.

5. Noor

Apparently the film and TV actress, former morning-show host may not be second time lucky. Allegedly her second marriage to TV director Farooq Mengal, who directed her in telefilm Zainabay for Hum Telefilm festival, is in deep trouble, after a few months into their marriage. This was the second round for both.

Their earlier nuptials brought them much grief albeit for different reasons. Noor was married to a Dubai-based Indian businessman Vikram Bandani. She ended her marriage citing his refusal to convert to Islam. She even had a televised spat with him in Nadia Khan show on Geo that was seen by all and sundry.

Farooq Mengal was earlier married to TV director Afreen Baig, who was murdered by their driver and his wife. Mengal too spent some jail time but was acquitted due to lack of evidence.

6. Javed Sheikh

The charming and debonair TV and film actor and director Jawed Sheikh too has made a go at marriage twice. His first marriage was to model and actress Zeenat Manghi with whom he has two children. His handsome son Shahzad Sheikh is now becoming a fixture in drama serials.

Jawed Sheikh was later on briefly married to actress and singer Salma Agha, whom he met while working together in films.

Earlier a couple of years ago in the TV show Brunch with Bushra, Jawed Sheikh disclosed that he was reunited with his first wife, whom we are assuming he never divorced in the first place, thanks to the efforts of their daughter Moomal.

7. Saba Hameed

Saba Hameed

Versatile actress Saba Hameed is these days living a busy life with her second husband, Waseem Abbas, fellow actor.

She was earlier married to Syed Pervaiz Shafi and during her marriage she was known as Saba Pervaiz. She has two kids from this union, one of them Meesha Shafi is a model, singer and actress.